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Bad Blogging Habits: #1 Consistently Random

May 16, 2011 by Tori 2 Comments

Plenty of bloggers will tell you about the habits you have to build to be a good, successful blogger. Not very many talk about the bad blogging habits. Especially not the ones that they themselves are horribly guilty of.

Which may be why I’m choosing to talk about my bad blogging habits. I’m weird like that. Today’s bad habit (not hobbit, which I typed first) is being Consistently Random.

Be Consistent

Any blogger will tell you that in order to be successful you have to be consistent. This is so your readers will know what to expect. If they know that you post new content on Wednesdays and Fridays, they will come to your blog on those days.

Now being a bad (not to be confused with badass) blogger, I am consistent. But the only thing I consistently do is randomly post. So much as I try to blog regularly and often, real life tends to get in the way, so I often do a couple of posts and then disappear for awhile only to return with another couple of posts sometime later. Rinse and repeat.

So what can a blogger do to better serve her readers?

Make a List

Nothing fuels my brain better than keeping a list of interesting topics handy so that I can sit down and write something up from those ideas. This post was one of many that is sitting in Windows Live Writer as a title and/or a few notes or links to kick off something I realized I wanted to talk about. But even  a sheet of paper, a cell phone or some other place to store notes will work.

But make sure you have enough written down to recognize it later on after it’s been awhile since you last touched on the topic. Nothing makes less sense than a handful of words that have no meaning.

Set a Schedule

A good blogger sets a consistent schedule by posting regularly. It doesn’t even have to be often. If your readers (and eventually you should be able to attract readers) expect entries every Wednesday, by all means be sure to have post pop on Wednesday, even if you’ve written it on Sunday. One of the best feature ever to happen to social media was to be able to schedule posts, updates, tweets, etc. You can write now and post later while still meeting the expectations of your readers.

Sit Down and Write

You have all your ideas written down for reference. You’ve decided that you want posts to show up at 4 PM every Thursday. Now you have to actually sit down and write that content. It can take some effort and maybe a little time. Are you going to go with a particular angle in your discussion? Are you just going to discuss the basics? There are a lot of different ways to spin a topic.

When you write your post, you might need to do a little search engine optimization (SEO). There are tools you can use to help you select the right keywords, but you might also ask yourself how you would search for the topic you are writing on. What search terms would you use? Use those phrases in your writing where appropriate. This will help attract readers.

Being a good blogger takes some work, but the biggest factor is writing good content that will engage your readers and prompt them to strike up a conversation with you. Connecting with other people is what keeps them coming back time after time. It takes work to make a bad blogger go good. We’ll discuss another bad blogger habit soon.

Filed Under: Social Media, Writing Tagged With: Bad Blogger, Blogging Habits, Social Media, Writing

All About Me(me)

May 13, 2011 by Tori 1 Comment

Dana over at The Daily Dose tagged me for this meme. Here are my responses. I didn’t forward it on because I never talk to anyone anymore, but that’s another story for another day.

If you could go back in time and relive one moment, what would it be?
Any of the moments where I held my children for the first time would be worth reliving.

If you could go back in time and change one thing, what would it be?
I probably would have gotten out and explored the world more.

What movie/TV character do you most resemble in personality?
Hmmm, this one is more difficult. I’m not sure about this one. I’m a huge fan of the show NCIS, which features a lot of intelligence, wit, problem-solving and a healthy dose of sarcasm.

If you could push one person off a cliff and get away with it, who would it be?
If you had asked me this 10 years ago, I’d have handed you a list, but these days, I’m pretty mild. So long as you aren’t hurting other people, I’m pretty content to let you live. Come to think of it though, I might shove that Westboro bastard off a cliff.

Name one habit you want to change in yourself.
I wish I didn’t draw a blank mentally when I get stressed out about life stuff.

Describe yourself in one word.
Loyal.

Describe the person who named you in this meme in one word.
Sweet.

Why do you blog? Answer in one sentence.
I blog because I like sharing thoughts and ideas and having conversations with all types of people.

Filed Under: Ramblings, Writing Tagged With: Meme, Personal Info

Why I Haven’t Been Blogging Even Though I Have Tons of Ideas

April 28, 2011 by Tori Leave a Comment

Vanderbilt Wife is doing a Why I series and I thought I’d participate, even if it’s a little late. Things have been crazy and get progressively more so the longer it’s been since I’ve returned to work in November. Yesterday the perfect analogy hit me. I t describes how I feel perfectly. Right now, most of the local rivers and streams are in flood stage and have risen above their banks. That is basically how I feel. There are so many things and the sheer amount of things I’m supposed to do/keep track/etc. are beyond my capacity. My bank are overflowing.

So I have a ton of blog post titles and a few lines of here and there of ideas just waiting for me to get them. And one day I will. I have been actively searching for better opportunities for our family. One day I will find something.

Filed Under: Family Life, Why I'm Slightly Crazy, Writing

Passion

March 12, 2011 by Tori Leave a Comment

It seems to be a common pursuit in many people’s lives, seeking something that one is passionate and following that passion wherever it may lead. It motivates people to leave a high-paying job they dislike to seek employment in a field that means something to them, despite the lesser paycheck.

These passions are important, though and they often create defining moments in life. Thinking about the things that I am passionate about has been on the forefront of my mind lately, as has how those passionate topics affect me. There are two that really stand out for me when I think of things that really get me fired up.

The first is writing. I love writing. Putting thoughts down on paper (or the screen!), whether fiction or nonfiction is not only satisfying, but also very soothing. I’ve been writing on and off for a very long time. Now that I’ve fully realized how important it is to me, I want to make it a priority in my life.

The second is birth. I don’t know if it’s because of the time period I am in right in my life, but I love reading and talking about all things related to pregnancy, childbirth, breastfeeding and raising small children. I read tons of information every day and I’ve realized that I have no one to discuss these issues with, so I’m going to start tossing them out on the blog as well in hopes that I can get my own conversations going.

I feel better having realized that I can name a couple of things that really matter to me and that I want to give some focus to with my free time. Mommy needs hobbies too!

Filed Under: Family Life, Writing

2011 Resolutions

February 12, 2011 by Tori Leave a Comment

NOTE: I typed this up ages ago and then let it sit around while I never edited it. Since it’s never a bad time to set some goals and work toward them, I’m still posting it. I look forward to updating regularly, some how or some way because I’ve failed miserably so far this year.

It’s that time of year again where everyone puts together plans for the new year and sets a gamut of unachievable goals. Yes, I’m guilty of it, too. In fact, I started thinking of things subconsciously before I even put a name to it.

But this year, I think I’m going to do something different. I’ve picked several areas of my life where I want to make improvements and/or changes. So I have a list of major areas where I want to tackle things. As I was thinking about it. I really decided that since the general goals don’t seem to work well for me, perhaps it was best to break down this big things into smaller pieces and perhaps work on implementing two things at a time until I met all the goals on my list. I’m hoping these smaller pieces will be easier to accomplish and I may even break down some of them to smaller to make it all more manageable.

So here’s my list. I am going to pick three of these to start off with and then move on from there.

Health/Exercise

  • Do sit ups, push ups & squats daily – preferably in the morning.
  • Do at least one 10 minute exercise routine a day
  • Lose weight (about 60 lbs) – This one has to wait to later in the year because I’ve found that if I cut too many calories, my breastmilk supply suffers.

Writing

  • Write 100 words every day – Something small to get me back in the habit of writing. It can be any mix of fiction or non fiction.
  • Attend the AW Science Fiction/Fantasy chats when they are held.
  • Do the AW Chat Flash Fiction Challenge on Sundays.

Personal Time

  • Go out once a month, be it date night or a girls’ night.
  • Get two hours of reading/writing time at least once a month, all alone.

House & Home

  • Plan and carry out meal plans and freezer cooking – It will save time and money during the week when I don’t get home until late and don’t want to spend the whole evening cooking like I do now.
  • Organize the house and create a cleaning plan – I’ve been building up to this, mostly using the Flylady’s routines. I’m working on modifying them to better work in our household.

Time with Kids

  • Get out and do more with them – Right now I feel so house-bound because I’m constantly trying to get caught up on housework and such, so I’m going to work on getting that stuff taken care of so we can do more fun things together.

These are the things I want to accomplish this year, so to start off right, these three things are going to be the focus for most of January/February:

  • Do sit ups, push ups & squats daily – preferably in the morning.
  • Write 100 words every day – Something small to get me back in the habit of writing. It can be any mix of fiction or non fiction.
  • Plan and carry out meal plans and freezer cooking – It will save time and money during the week when I don’t get home until late and don’t want to spend the whole evening cooking like I do now.

These are the things I’m going to focus on for the first couple of month, which will hopefully be enough time to make them habit. Around March, I’ll start on something else. I’m hoping to tackle everything by the end of the year.

Be on the lookout for further updates of my 2011 resolutions.

Filed Under: Family Life, Writing Tagged With: Goals, Health, Managing the House

Why I’m Not Doing NaNoWriMo This Year

November 9, 2010 by Tori 1 Comment

Typically I make some attempt at participating in NaNo or National Novel Writing Month. It’s a great way to connect with other writers over an event, it keeps writing on the brain and I typically get a few words in.

This year given that I just had a baby at the end of August and I return to work mid-November, I don’t think it will work well for me. Especially since work is supposedly going to be pretty hairy when I return.

If things work out, I may try for a mini-NaNo. Perhaps I could work on last year’s NaNo project, which has haunted my thoughts all year long. I really need to try to work on that one.

Filed Under: Writing

Merry Christmas to Me – A Little Early

November 8, 2010 by Tori Leave a Comment

Yesterday I ordered a netbook for me, for writing. I’m so excited. It has a little spunk, being purple and all. I was a little hesitant to spend that much money on myself right now, but my dad encouraged me to do it with a gentle reminder that something good for my life may come out of it. He also forgave the remainder of a loan I owed him because I felt it wrong to spend that much money on something I didn’t absolutely need when I should repay him.

I have plans for my little netbook. Yes, indeed, I have plans. That poor little sucker is going to get carted around everywhere with me so that I can write on it when I get a spare minute. I want to write both fiction and nonfiction, as I seem to have an undying love for both. I can keep my little snippets of ideas right there on the computer to pick up any time I need them. The hope is that this will work better for me than writing everything on paper during the day and then trying to transcribe things at night.

My biggest problem is my fractured mind. I constantly feel overwhelmed with stuff all the time. I’m stressed about my lack of time at home, the things I really need to get done and the things I really desire to do in life. The netbook won’t be a cure-all, but I hope it will bring about a bit of continuity in my life. If I’m stuck waiting somewhere, I can take advantage of the fact by picking up right where I left off on something. This is currently a bit of a problem for me because I can’t always remember where I left off unless I have it with me and I just don’t have the time to transcribe every day.

So I’m looking forward to it arriving and I’ll see how it goes.

Filed Under: Family Life, Writing

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